Athlete coaches who sexually abuse their young athletes are manipulative, narcissistic and focused on their personal gratification with absolutely no regard for their victims. Many people believe that a predator strikes quickly. Rarely does that happen. In most cases predator coaches use the following secret tactics to gain the trust of their victim:
- Long-term “grooming”. 90 percent of sexual abuse is committed by someone the victim knows and trusts. Predators rarely go from 0 to 60 with children they totally don’t know. They take their time crossing the line and seeing how far they can go.
- Secrets. Predator coaches force their victims to keep deep, dangerous secrets that are surrounded by threats, intimidation and fear. Fight back by teaching your children that nobody is ever allowed to tell them to keep a secret from their parents.
- Shame and credibility. Predator coaches believe that kids won’t talk to their parents. Parents can be proactive by letting children know they’re loved unconditionally and that they can share anything with you.
- Predator coaches know that many children can’t say “NO” to an adult. Parents must teach our children that they can say “No” if an adult does something that makes them feel uncomfortable.
- Predator coaches prey on uncomfortable feelings and emotions. You must teach your children that their bodies are private and that nobody is allowed to touch them.
- Children who are totally naive about their bodies are the easiest to molest. Serial molesters were interviewed in jail and they said, “Show me a child that’s naive and I could do whatever I want to him”.
- They literally seduce the parents into allowing them access to their children. By charming parents and gaining their trust, the predator gains access to the family and is not suspected of inappropriate behavior.
Contact attorney Jonathan Little if you find yourself in a situation where your child athlete has been abused. Mr. Little offers a free consultation.